March 14, 2010

Personal finance, courtesy of your grandparents

Many of your grandparents, or maybe great grandparents, didn't have mortgages.  They didn't have car loans, either.   They also didn't have credit cards or department store charge cards.

They saved up and paid for things.  They cashed their paychecks, put a portion into savings, then budgeted the rest for what they intended to spend on food, shelter, clothing, and transportation.  If the event of an emergency, they dipped into their savings, took care of the emergency, then tightened their belts and built back their savings.  A simple strategy with great results.

So what happened?  Why do 70% of Americans live from paycheck to paycheck these days?  The answer is just as simple.  Some very effective marketers have led us to believe that the lifestyles we lead are everything and that keeping up with the Jones' is the most important thing.  They've created products, large and small, and marketed them aggressively to all ages.

At the same time, there's never been more credit available to purchase things we can't really afford.  Credit has been marketed as a necessity, so much so that it sells itself.  Get denied for a credit card and you want it even more.  We absolutely must have the right to pay for the privilege of borrowing someone else's money.

We've gone from our great grandparents seeing debt as a sign of shame to our generation seeing it as an absolute necessity.  What are the results of this paradigm shift?  According to the Federal Reserve, there was $2.5 trillion of consumer debt in 2009.  That's $8100 for every adult and every child living in the United States of America.

With all of our credit card, car loan, and student loan debt (BTW, that $2.5 trillion does not include mortgage debt!) how can we save, retire, educate our children, and give?

There is only one way.

The debt must go and we have to start harnessing the power of our incomes to build wealth, give, and enjoy all that life has to offer.  Getting rid of our debts is simple, yet painful.  There are no gimmicks here.  Debt consolidation loans are not the answer and bankruptcy is an experience no one should have to go through.  The answer is one simple phrase, coined by nationally syndicated radio host and New York Times Best-Selling author Dave Ramsey, "Live like no one else so, later on, you can live like no one else."

Dave's teachings are based on the successful completion of a series of "Baby Steps".  These are incremental milestones that help you see your progress, build momentum, and prepare for the unexpected.  Start with "Baby Step One" saving $1000 as quickly as possible.  This is the beginning of your Emergency Fund.  With your Emergency Fund in place, you have created "Murphy Repellent" or, in other words, you have the ability to survive minor financial emergencies as you progress through the 2nd "Baby Step", the "Debt Snowball".

You create the "Debt Snowball" by taking all debts, except for your mortgage, and ranking them smallest to largest.  Pay the minimum payment on all of these debts except for the smallest one.  You will pay this smallest debt off as quickly as possible.  Once this smallest debt is eliminated, take the minimum payment from it and apply that to the next smallest debt, along with it's minimum monthly payment.  As the snowball rolls downhill, it picks up more snow, gains more momentum and gets bigger and bigger.  Once it reaches the bottom, or your largest debt, it gets knocked out quickly and you're debt free, except for your mortgage.

The third "Baby Step" is to complete your Emergency Fund by saving three to six months of expenses.  With no debt, except your mortgage, and 3-6 months of expenses in savings you are now able to weather more than minor financial crises' and you're truly able to harness the power of your income to build wealth, give and enjoy life.

Now that you have some breathing room, it just might be time to take a look at what you do for a living.  Do you have a job that brings home a paycheck or a career you're truly passionate about.  Does your vocation make you happy or does it just make you money?  Do you work in the same field you studied in college?  Did you take this job in order to support your family, even though it doesn't support you?  With your debts paid off, it may be time to align your passion with your career.  Who knows, you might find that a career you're passionate about proves to be just as lucrative, if not more, than that job you used to have.

This is a simplified version of Dave Ramsey's fundamental teachings.  To learn more, visit Dave Ramsey's popular website…MyTotalMoneyMakeover.com.  By the way, I receive no financial compensation if you visit the site and purchase any of Dave's products.  Dave's teachings and my hard work and discipline are getting me out of debt.  If you're ready for a change and ready to work hard, I know they'll work in your life too.

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September 23, 2009

An Adoption Poem…

Once there were two women who never knew each other;

One you do not remember, the other you call "Mother."

Two different lives shaped to make you one;

One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.

The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it;

The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name;

One gave you talent, the other gave you aim.

One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears;

One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears.

One sought for you a home that she could not provide;

The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied.

And now you ask me through your tears….

The age old question, unanswered throughout the years.

Heredity or environment…which are you a product of?

Neither…my darling…neither,

Just two different kinds of love!

-Author unknown-

The Legacy of an Adopted Child

Once there were two women who never knew each other;
One you do not remember, the other you call "Mother."

Two different lives shaped to make you one;
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.

The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it;
The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name;
One gave you talent, the other gave you aim.

One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears;
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears.

One sought for you a home that she could not provide;
The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied.

And now you ask me through your tears….
The age old question, unanswered throughout the years.

Heredity or environment…which are you a product of?
Neither…my darling…neither,
Just two different kinds of love!

-Author unknown-

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September 4, 2009

Who Doesn't Love Free Stuff?

Signs of recovery are around us, but try to tell that to the nearly 7 million Americans who've lost jobs since the recession began in December 2007.

It's not easy raising a family with less, but there are businesses nationwide offering all kinds of freebies.  Here's one that families may find especially attractive…

On Tuesday nights (and occasionally Saturdays) Denny's, Lone Star Steakhouse, and Roadhouse Grill offer free kids meals with a paying adult.  Check out KidsMealDeals.com for restaurants in your area.

Yahoo!Finance has a whole page of free stuff like airline freebies, free video games, free shipping and free financial advice.   Some of its hokie, but there's some good stuff too.

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August 28, 2009

15% of Canadian Preschoolers Depressed?

CBC News put a story on their website today about a recent study of Quebec preschoolers and their mothers, which appeared in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry.

Guess what?

15% of the preschoolers had abnormally high levels of depression and anxiety.  The biggest indicators are history of depression in the mother and a "difficult temperment" in the infant at 5 months of age.

So that's Canada and anybody who knows us knows we love all things Canadian, so we're not going to make any snide remarks about the weather up there, or the Canadiens not having one a Stanley Cup in 16 years, being a contributing factor.

Any studies like this going on in the good 'ol USA?

Apparently so.  Jezebel.com reports about a study that followed 306 depressed preschoolers.  Two years later, 40% of those kids were still suffering from depression.  I guess the psychologists who said that children under 6 didn't have the emotional maturity to be depressed were wrong.

What the experts are struggling with is how to treat preschooler depression and anxiety.  They're not sure if cognitive behavioral therapy will work like it works for teens.  They're also worried about using anti-depressants on preschoolers. (Wouldn't you be?)  But, something does have to be done.  Depression and anxiety can't be left unchecked throughout childhood for obvious reasons.

Moral of the story here is if there's a history of depression in mom or mom's side of the family, pay special attention to your child's behavior very early on.  Follow this link for some great books about depression in children that will help you build a strategy to raise a healthy and well-adjusted child.

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August 27, 2009

Finding a babysitter made easy with Sittercity

We love Sittercity.com

We love Sittercity.com

One of our biggest concerns when we first moved to Wichita was finding a reliable babysitter.  We knew no one and our closest family was 2 1/2 hours away in Kansas City.

In fact, the only way we could go to the movies by ourselves was to visit Mimi in Kansas City for a weekend and have her babysit Jack while we went out for the evening.  5 hours of driving just to have a night out gets old after a while.

We knew we needed to find a good sitter so we turned to the power of the World Wide Web.  Todd suggested Craigslist but Jennifer wasn't too thrilled about that idea.  "No photos, no profile, no references, and no resume," she said.

Todd thought for a second and said, "What website has all that?"

Jennifer shot right back, "Sittercity, you big dork!"

Todd thought again for a minute and then remembered…"Hey I think I've heard of that site.  I read about it in a book I have about internet businesses.  A college student in Boston started it and turned it into one of the best websites in the world."

Jennifer said, "I don't care about all that, I just want someone who isn't weird to watch Jack!"

So we went on the site and started looking at all the babysitters in Wichita.  We found some people we liked, checked their bios, their work experience, their schedules, their references and the map of where they lived.  Then we mailed a few we liked.

Within a couple weeks we interviewed a local college student and decided she'd make a great babysitter for Jack.  She hasn't disappointed.  We haven't used her in a month or so, but get this…

She just emailed us one day last week – out of the blue – to ask how everything was going.  Now that's special.  Sittercity has been everything we'd hoped for and we hope you like it too.

Need a babysitter? The best local sitters are at Sittercity.com. Save 15% on registration with promo code SAVE15

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