As a mom, wife and person struggling to identify herself I often find myself lost in a vicious circle of guilt.

As a stay-at-home mom I experience lots of guilt….mommy guilt, wife guilt and then personal guilt. Jack and I usually start our days at 7:30am. We eat breakfast and then Jack plays (and watches tv) while I do my daily chores. I start to experience the mommy guilt when I look in the living room and see my child glued to the tv while I work.

So then I drop what I am doing and start to play with Jack (a mind is a terrible thing to waste) and an hour later I look around and say oh my … the laundry is sitting in the washer wet, dishes are piling up, and I need to clean the bathrooms so to ease the guilt I tell myself ok nap time is soon I will do it all during nap. However, once naptime comes I feel the pull of my personal needs and wants, school work needs to get done or I deserve some “me time” watching my favorite soap opera and if I stop to do that the wife guilt sets in.

Todd deserves to come home to a clean house, dinner prepared and a happy wife and child. So, as you can see the circle of guilt is alive and well! How do I handle my struggle? Usually it varies, one day a week I am selfish and get my stuff done, another day I am a bad wife and play with Jack all day long ignoring my needs and those of my house and husband and then the next day Jack gets to spend way too much time in front of the tv as I run around trying to get my house work caught up. How do you handle your mommy guilt?

Let me know please!